Dr. Laurie shares the reason behind why she wrote her book, Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters–And How to Get It. As a professor to over 150 students a year, she shares the influence her undergrad students had on this book.
Two factors that ultimately influenced her was the massive orgasm gap in men and women, and the loss of clitoral knowledge. Listen as she tackles the miseducation that society is subjected to and uncovers some shocking orgasm statistics you don’t want to miss.
Becoming Cliterate seeks to eradicate the notion that intercourse is the ultimate pleasure for women and the way they should orgasm.
Dr. Laurie mentions the book as a combination of cultural analysis and self-help as it brings gender equality into relationships.
Reasons for the Pleasure Gap
It’s not easy to admit that there is a huge gap between men and women’s take on pleasure. Dr. Laurie explains why penetration does not give the same level of satisfaction for both genders. Join in as she discusses the other possible reasons for this gap, including body image issues, cognitive issues and lack of training in sexual communication.
We hear how the lack of clitoral knowledge plays a key role in the pleasure gap and how this stems from pornography and misinformation.
Closing the Gap
Dr. Laurie believes that there is a need for a sexual revolution in pleasure equality. Tune in to hear where this revolution starts. She emphasizes that just talking can close the gap.
Tips for Women Who Have Never Had an Orgasm
Dr. Laurie’s advice if you are one of these women: Masturbate!! Join in to hear her 4 steps for your first orgasm. Get ready to know your body better after this! She reminds us that it is important to get the same kind of stimulation when with your partner too. While this may take some creativity, it is achievable for everyone.
Apart from this, Dr. Laurie educates us in having good communication with our partners. How to use “I” statements in communicating your needs and/or wants, and how you can be at ease when talking to your partner about this. She highlights that this is your equal right to pleasure.
Tips for Men and the Biggest Takeaway
Clitoral education is not just for women to understand, it’s definitely one of the things men should also learn about. In this episode, Dr. Laurie also shares a variety of ways on how men can open the topic to their partners and help their partners talk about what they want in sex.
Remember, sex is intended to be equally pleasurable.
Laurie Mintz, PH.D. is an award-winning college professor. She currently teaches the Psychology of Human Sexuality to hundreds of students a year at the University of Florida and has had over 20 years of experience working with private clients on sexual issues.
Dr. Mintz has received numerous professional awards and is a Fellow of the American Psychological Association. She has published over 50 research studies, writes the Psychology Today blog and has been quoted in many outlets, including Cosmopolitan, Woman’s Day, Prevention, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, CNN.com, Oprah.com and The Huffington Post.
She authored the book, Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters–And How to Get It, with the goal to close the massive orgasm gap between men and women and debunk the misinformation today’s generation gets from media and pornography.
Links and How to contact Dr. Laurie
Get the book here: https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Cliterate-Orgasm-Equality-Matters/dp/0062484389
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