Welcome to Episode 49 of Building My Legacy.

The fourth of our 10-part series on resilience, this podcast looks at a common insecurity that we all battle: worrying about what other people think of us. Resilience coach Kate Fitzsimons discusses how to apply her 3Rs – recognize, reflect and redirect – to help you stress less about other people’s opinions of you.

It’s human nature to want the approval of others. When people praise your actions, you give yourself permission to feel good about yourself and to feel confident in your abilities. But what happens when people aren’t paying attention or, even worse, their words cause you to feel that you’re not good enough at your job or for that promotion? Kate’s 3Rs of resilience can help you stop obsessing about other people’s opinions. She offers practical advice on managing your own thinking to eliminate the negative thoughts that can hold you back from advancing in your career and in building your legacy.

So if you want to know:

  • Why the only person who can hurt your feelings is yourself
  • How to stop trying to control other people’s opinions of you
  • The difference between constructive feedback and someone acting out of their own insecurities
  • Why it’s okay to let people be wrong about you


About Kate Fitzsimons

Named one of Australia’s 100 Women of Influence in 2016, Kate Fitzsimons is an international speaker, certified life coach & director of the Nicole Fitzsimons Foundation – a charity established in honor of her sister Nicole who died in an accident in Thailand in 2012.

Determined to save others from a similar tragic fate, Kate left her corporate career in 2013 to dedicate herself to educating young people about the importance of travel safety. Through her eye-opening presentation at high schools, Kate drives home to students the devastating consequences of risk-taking overseas – a message so powerful that she is now supported by the Australian government and major corporations.

Inspired to help others thrive through adversity, Kate’s presentations to students around the world and her popular podcast show, ”Okay. Now What?” help high school and college students develop “response-ability” – the ability to choose their response to any situation based on their perspective of it. Kate’s passion is to provide inspiration and practical advice to help you overcome even the most traumatic experiences. She knows if she can do it, anyone can.

About Lois Sonstegard, PhD

Working with business leaders for more than 30 years, Lois has learned that successful leaders have a passion to leave a meaningful legacy.  Leaders often ask: When does one begin to think about legacy?  Is there a “best” approach?  Is there a process or steps one should follow?

Lois is dedicated not only to developing leaders but to helping them build a meaningful legacy. Learn more about how Lois can help your organization with Leadership Consulting and Executive Coaching:

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Mike Saunders, MBA

Mike Saunders is theAuthority Positioning Coach at Marketing Huddle, the author of Amazon Bestselling book Authority Selling™, Adjunct Marketing Professor at several Universities, contributor to The Huffington Post, and member of the Forbes Coaches Council – an invitation-only community for the World’s Most Influential Business Coaches.

Lois Sonstegard, PhD

Working with business leaders for more than 30 years, Lois has learned the passion successful leaders have to leave a meaningful legacy. Lois is dedicated not only to developing leaders but to help them build a meaningful legacy.