Who are you, where are you going, and how are you going to get there? These words came from when I was in graduate school. We were given some homework that summer before we started, and I read this book and it had those three lines in that book. Who are you, where are you going and how are you going to get there? And I specifically remember where I was. I lived in Issaquah, Washington at the time and I was at a park. It was a gorgeous sunny afternoon and I was reading at the park and at that moment I just had an epiphany, a light bulb kind of moment, a sad moment.
Front Seat Lifers, I have been taking you on a journey. For the past several months we have been focusing on who you are and how you show up in the world. And understanding the personality types of those around you, and how they are showing up and how this impacts your relationships.
That first question of “Who are you?” is so important, along with understanding your family of origin, your traumas, your personality type, and your core values. These things in our lives that don’t change and then the things that we can work on in relationships with other people. And it all comes down to really being the best version of ourselves. Being in our Front Seat, living our lives from the Front Seat and then showing up and being unapologetically who we are.
And once we have a pretty good idea to this “Who are you?” question, we can begin to try to answer another whopper. So today marks a big day, a big day because we are transitioning from the “Who are you?” into the second question, which is “Where are you going?”
That day in the park was a pivotal moment in my life. I was in my mid-thirties and I didn’t know who I was. I had lost myself in my marriage, lost myself in my career. I had lost my identity or maybe I never found it. And I sat there not only trying to figure out who I was but trying to answer this question, “Where was I going?” I started for the first time in my life to have a clear direction. I had signed up for graduate school. I had quit my job. I knew some about where I was going, but quite honestly, I was somewhat living about two or three months in front of my face. I didn’t necessarily have a long-term vision yet.
With today’s episode, we will begin to explore this tough question and I will help you begin to find clarity in your path. Once we have the vision, we will begin to fill in the necessary steps to get there, but this is the start. I want people to quit settling and start thriving. It makes me so sad when I watch people settle, to not have a plan, to not have any idea where they’re going in their life. Because here’s a fact. This is a fact. If you do nothing different, you can expect the same exact results.
Those visions that I had starting back then on that park bench are now happening and yes, it might take 10 years, it might take five years. Sometimes it takes five days or five months. That’s the part that I know that we are not in control over, but what we are in control over is what we do about it. And until you know the “why,” which is this vision for your life, all that stuff, you’re not going to do it.
That is the importance of what we’re going to talk about today, and as we go forward. I hope today’s episode is inspirational for you, motivational, and I hope that you will go on this journey with me.
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